Why is it so hard to unfriend an ex on Facebook post breakup and what does it mean when both the breaker upper and the broken hearted stay Facebook friends? Watching each others updates; getting upset and hurt when the other is having fun and finding solace when it seems they’re having a bad day. Yet neither will make the first move to unfriend the other.
In the past I’ve gone almost mad not knowing what an ex was doing as I fought the urge to call them, wondering if they were thinking about me as much as I thought about them. These days I can skip right past the should or shouldn’t I call angst and find out how the ex spent their entire day, only to be crushed by the news that were out having fun, without me.
The worst experience was going to my homepage one afternoon and seeing a picture they had posted of themselves with another woman, smiling. Since then I’ve learned how to block their posts and updates from my homepage, but the fact is I can still check up on them. It’s the passive aggressive way to drag out my own pain. A case of it hurts so bad it feels good. And when I do go to their page to sneak a look aka be a fly on the wall, I have only myself to blame since I know good and well I should have stayed away from their page in the first place as I spiral into a pit of self-loathing and self-pity. Yet, I have to admit that when things are going good for me I have no qualms splashing the news on my page in hopes that they’re reading about all my fun, without them. [...]